Don’t Let Writing Be Your Identity

Hey friends!

Over half a year ago, I published this piece on Kingdom Pen at the start of the new year.  As a Christian, it’s still a struggle for me to remember my identity lies in God’s grace, not my writing, so this article is still something I deeply relate to.

That said, I thought I’d tweak it a bit and share it with you today. 🙂


Fiction writers are extraordinary people. They slave away at their craft, earning their talent through years of hard work and endless dedication. They pour emotion and soul into their manuscripts. Their stories naturally become a part of them.

As fallen artists, we often associate our identity with our work. We don’t realize it, but we attempt to measure our value by the quality of our writing, our place in a certain writing group or stereotype, or the approval of readers. Misplaced identity grows harmful thought patterns that drain our joy. Writing becomes a drain, not a labor of love.

Harmful Pattern #1: Comparison and Jealousy

This is a trap many writers, myself included, fall into without a second thought. We read the work of others on a regular basis, whether we’re critiquing, beta reading, or casually flipping through the pages of a book. Sometimes the characters are extremely vibrant, the settings practically breathe with life, and the themes leave us speechless. We unconsciously hold another writer’s product beside our own work-in-progress. Our characters whom we adore suddenly seem mediocre at best, flat at worst. Our settings are cliché and our theme is only meaningful to us. Read more

You Know You’re a Fiction Writer #4

Writing is a solitary craft, but that doesn’t mean we don’t want to relate to others (especially other writers). That said, here are 18, “You know you’re a fiction writer” statements I hope you can connect to (and perhaps laugh at 😉 ). 

You Know You’re a Fiction Writer…

1. When you pity your characters at the start of your story because you know what they’ll go through later,

2. When you thought writing was for introverts but realize in order to sell books, you must meet lots and lots of people,

3. When you are one of the most unproductive human beings to ever stare at a computer screen,

4. When you pause at stop signs for an extra second or two because you have to document an idea before you drive on,

5. When you steal your friend’s phone to text yourself ideas because you don’t have yours within reach,

6. When you write something like, “The people were depressed because they were sad” and realize you should have picked another career,

7. When you write something like, “He walked into the room with the stride of a man wishing for death and the broken nobility of a dethroned king hiding behind his eyes” the next second and wonder if both those sentences came out of one brain, Read more

My 10 Somethings for August

Meeting retired car thieves, exasperating people with glitter, and long road trips.

Just another month in the life of Gabby.

Welcome to My Somethings for August!

Something Sad

My sister and her roomie, Tori, moved away this month. 😦

First off, it’s just plain sad they won’t be around. Second, watching them leave for Cedarville gave me homesickness for the college I dropped out of. Don’t you hate it when you make the right choice but are still pained by it?  

All depressing feelings aside, they now have the ability to commute to Cedarville, and I’m allowed to visit them on the weekends. I think I’ll survive. 😉 Read more

Ten Small Things I’m Grateful for as a Writer

It’s the little things we don’t notice that make all the difference. It’s not often we realize how comforting that crack in our favorite coffee mug is, or how our little table lamp consistently illuminates our late night writing endeavors.

Here’s an ode to all the little things that bless my journey as a writer.

1. Spotify.

It has yet to judge me for playing the same song over and over (and over) again. Read more

My 9 Somethings for July

Hey friends!

I survived my first writer’s conference and my first kidnapping! 😀 Isn’t that exciting?

Welcome to my nine Somethings for July.

Something on Fire

Every July we host a party near the Fourth. We use this party as an excuse to blow up stuff.

Why?

Because it’s fun and we are ‘mericans.

I dragged my camera out during the party to snap some pics of all the pretty, burning objects.

Something Familiar

I dyed my hair once again and enjoyed all the confusion I inflicted upon my poor fellow humans who had a hard time recognizing me. You’ll notice the change in the pictures below so I won’t bother with one now.

Something Legendary

Now we’re getting to the good stuff.

I attended my first writer’s conference EVER, and boy, it was worth the money. Read more